Meet Christians Who've Actually Been Checked
One London evening where every guest has been vetted. A real person makes the introductions.
Take the Free Quiz
£50 covers the room and the food. The vetting is free.
A Proper Route to Meeting Single Christians Who Are Serious.
Take the free quiz
Five minutes. It tells you straight away whether this evening is right for you, including if the answer is no.
Get checked. Free.
ID, a Basic DBS you apply for yourself (£21.50 to gov.uk), a 40-minute conversation, and three people who know you, telephoned.
Come to the evening
£50 covers the room and the food. Around forty checked people, one long table, seating designed rather than random.
Get introduced
Afterwards, a real person briefs you both. You both agree before anything is shared, and she checks in with each of you separately.
A relaxed meal with people who wanted to be checked
Everyone in the room said yes to the same thing: identity verified, church confirmed, references telephoned. That one shared decision changes the whole temperature of the evening. Nobody is performing, because everybody has already been honest.
Conversation flows from everyday life to matters of faith, and the seating has been thought about so you're never stranded.
Exactly What We Verify, and What We Can't.
When we looked, we couldn't find another Christian introduction service in Britain that publishes this. We think that's the whole point.
We verify
- Identity, against a government document.
- Marital status: single, divorced with the final order granted, or widowed. Not separated.
- Twelve months at a church, confirmed directly with the church.
- A Basic DBS certificate, obtained by you, shown to us. We note the number and keep no copy.
- Three references, telephoned. One from your church. At least one who has known you five years.
We cannot verify
- Spent convictions. A Basic DBS shows unspent convictions only, and no matchmaking service in the UK can see more.
- Anything never reported or observed. If nobody has seen it and nobody has said it, we will not find it.
- A person's character. A conversation and three phone calls tell us a great deal. They are not a guarantee, and we won't pretend otherwise.
Anyone who claims to guarantee character is overselling.
It's Not For You If…
- You're not sure you want to be married. Everyone in the room is looking for marriage within a couple of years. Being earlier than that is fine. This is just an expensive way to find out.
- You'd rather not be asked real questions. A conversation, a DBS certificate, three friends telephoned. There's no lighter version. The checking is what everyone else in the room is relying on.
- You're separated but not divorced. We need the final order, and we hold that line for everyone. The alternative is someone at the table still being married.
- You can't commit to showing up. When you book, thirty-nine other people are counting on you. If you don't show up, this isn't fair to anyone.
- You're not Christian. The whole evening is built around shared faith. If that's not you, this probably isn't the right fit.
Why This Evening Works
Checked Not Claimed
Five verifications before anyone gets a seat. An app takes people's word for it; we telephone.
Seating by Design
The house makes the first move, so neither of you has to. Being seated together is a signal without being a declaration.
A Person, Not an Algorithm
Introductions are made by someone accountable, who briefs you both and follows up with each of you.
Everyone Wants the Same Thing
Marriage, within a couple of years. Nobody is browsing, and nobody is there by accident.
Run at Cost, Not for Profit
The £50 pays for the room and the food, split forty ways. Nobody takes a wage, and we publish what it cost.
Nothing to Scroll
No app, no profiles, no messaging. If it isn't worth saying to a person, it doesn't happen here.
Facts about how it works, not outcome claims. We won't publish success numbers until we have real follow-up data.
What People Said Before Applying
Illustrative quotes. No outcome claims until we have real follow-up data. About these testimonials.
"I'd stopped expecting anyone at church to ask. I wasn't sad about it. I'd just stopped expecting it."
Amara O., 33Before applying
"Honestly, the vetting was the bit that sold me. I've met enough people online who turned out to be someone else."
David M., 36Before applying
"My pastor put my name forward. I'd never have filled in the form myself. I'm glad someone else did it."
Tobi K., 31Before applying
This Isn't a Business.
The Match is independent and not for profit. Nobody takes a wage from it, and there is nothing to upsell you.
Cancel any time up to fourteen days before the evening for a full refund. After that, refunds are at our discretion (the venue is booked and paid by then).
Our Safety Commitment
Always in public, always in a group
One handpicked venue, a named safeguarding lead present, no private meetings, no surprises.
Published standards
What we check, what we can't, and the grounds on which we decline someone. All public, all on this page.
Privacy protected
Nothing about you reaches another guest until you've seen the exact wording and agreed. We never pass on addresses.
We're here if you need us
A named contact for concerns about another guest, and every complaint acknowledged within 30 days.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this a dating service?
Yes, plainly. Everyone in the room is single, checked, and looking for marriage within a couple of years. If you want Christian friendship without that intent, ComeBelong runs lovely weekly dinners and we'd genuinely point you there.
How are people checked?
Identity against a government document, marital status, twelve months at a church confirmed with the church, a Basic DBS certificate, and three references we telephone. What we can't check is published above, too.
What does it cost, in total?
£50 if you're offered a seat. It covers the venue and food, split forty ways. Plus £21.50 for your Basic DBS, paid to gov.uk. The quiz, application and all the checking are free.
Where does the £50 go?
Venue hire and food. That's it. Nobody is paid from it, we cover any shortfall ourselves, and we publish what the evening cost afterwards.
Do I have to belong to a particular church?
No. Twelve months at any Christian church, with people there who know you well enough to speak for you. We are not attached to one congregation or denomination.
What if I'm not accepted?
Almost nobody is refused outright. Most people who aren't ready are asked to come to a later evening, with a written explanation of what we'd want to see first. It costs you nothing either way.
We decline only for published reasons of honesty and safety: undisclosed unspent convictions in serious categories, a current marriage, dishonesty in the application, or references that don't corroborate.
Can I see what my referees said?
Yes. UK data protection law entitles you to ask, and we tell every referee that in writing before they speak. We'd rather have references people will stand behind.
Is it speed dating?
No. One long table, a proper meal, seating that's been thought about. Introductions happen afterwards, one at a time, through a person, and only if you both say yes.
I'm separated but not divorced.
Not yet. We need the final order, and we hold that line for everyone. Come back when it's granted; we'll be glad to hear from you.
Who sees my information?
The coordinator, the interviewer, and a three-person decision panel. Never your own pastor in a deciding role. Unsuccessful applications are deleted at six months.
Who is behind The Match?
A small independent team: a named coordinator and a group of trained volunteers. We're not a church, not an agency, and nobody draws an income from it.
Our full details, our safeguarding lead and our complaints route are in the footer. The screening standard is fixed in writing and published; if we ever change it, we'll say so and date it.
You Shouldn't Have to Outsource This to an App
In one UK church of more than a thousand people, 63% of the single women hadn't been on a date with anyone from their congregation in two years. Not because the men weren't there. They were in the building. Because nobody knew who was serious, nobody made introductions, and asking someone out at church costs more than it should.
So the apps got the job instead: strangers, self-described, unverifiable. £102 million lost to romance fraud in Britain last year.
We think it can be done the way communities always did it: with real names, real references, and a person who takes responsibility for the introduction. One evening at a time.
Eido Research, 200 singles aged 18–40 in a UK church of 1,000+. Action Fraud, 2025.
